are you you?

how silly the question is! he is he; she is she; i am i; then why the hell question 'are you you?'? ok well. let me reframe the question by including myself and everyone in this beautiful land. are we we? think for a while by waking all your deepest past and embedded soul. you have enjoyed this world for -- years. in that long lived life how many of us got all our wants full-filled and live the life we really wanted?

suppose you would like to go for a pub but if your sweet girlfriend asks you to accompany her for shopping; also you would like to go to temple but your sweet heart wants you to come for beach; ranging from this small wishes to longer ones like you longed to become anthropologist or psychoanalyst but your parents made you a physician; then you wanted to marry mary but you end up with rosy;

how many unfruitful attempts, shattered dreams, unhappy situations! leave aside all those things. i agree we do not have control over wishes getting full-filled. but how many of us are allowed to take efforts to full-fill our wants, wishes or needs?

you are the part of society and since you want to live sticking to it, you loose all your independence and individuality. being a part in the society how many of us achieved the co-ordination between the greatest brain and so called mind? all are proud to say they are extroverts. do they really think they are extroverts? ok assume they are claiming for their extroversion. can they just imagine what are the things they had lost to earn the title of extroverts. the moment you are amicable with anyone your individuality is injured atleast for 1 per cent. now comes the conflict between mind and brain. brain is very practical whereas your mind is very sentimental. everybody's brain needs solitude in contradiction to this everybody's mind needs lovely relationships. so no one is completely extrovert nor completely introvert. we are just toys of situation and everyone is ambivert. assume their is a complete introvert and can we conclude that he/she can say YES for the topic. no he too cannot. because an introvert struggles hard to define his own YOU (by sticking to grammar HE/SHE) then how could he can say yes? the pitiable so called introverts are adjusting their personalities all the time for themselves.

we need love, affection and friendship. for that we need adjustments. obviously your individuality is lost whenever you are adjusting for someone immaterial whether the person for whom are adjusting is your mom, dad, spouse or any other relation. so you cannot be 100% you, but you can try to be a better you.

ya here goes some tips to make a better YOU.

# none other can play your role better than you. so stop comparing and changing yourself.
# live the day. forget the unpleasant past and do not bother for the unknown future.
# try to be independent to the maximum extent you can.
# find your matching spouse. if you can't what is the harm in leading a single life?
# always defend your deeds, actions and words.
# do not adjust for anybody unless it is absolutely necessary.

last words. if you go on caring about society you will be fooled everytime. people have no time to keep an eye on what you are doing. even if some shit does that what harm you are going to face with that. so, live for yourself. be a better YOU.

i am not against friendship or love. i am believing that being oneself is more important than friendship or love. keep your inner circle small or if possible even make it one with zero radii.

NOW ask yourself "are you you?"

Songs

2. yet another song on lord ganapathy

ragam: mohanam
talam: adhi

pallavi:
sidhi budhi pradhakaram
sathjana sahita ganapathim

anupallavi:
sakala lokha nayakam
sarva vigna nasakam

charanam:
aadhi-moorthim adhi teeram
mooshigasura vadha karam
modhaga hastam mohana roopam
venkatesa vinuta vignarajam

madhyama kalam:
pranava swaroopa vakra tundam
baktha jana paripalana devam
shivatmajam sripathi poojitha
gowri putram ganeshwaram

Songs

1. on lord ganapathy language sanskrit

Ragam: sindhuramakriya
Talam: aadhi

Pallavi:
vigna naasa vinayaka
vijaya prada vignesha

Anupallavi:
tava paadam charanam asmi

Chittaswaram:
sa ga pa ga ri ga sa; |sa ga ma pa ta pa ga ma||
pa ta ni SA GA RI GA SA|SA ni ta pa ga ri ga sa||
sa ni. ta.; ni. ta. sa;|sa ga ga; ga ma pa; ||
pa ga ma pa ta ni SA; |SA ni ta pa ga ri ga ma||

Charanam:
mooshigavaahana modagapriya
gajavadana gambeera
sundara roopa sadha deena
venkatesa chinta nivasa
mama sankataharana heramba

Deekshidhar - A Great musician and Sanskrit Pandit

Everyone will be aware of the carnatic music trinities Muthuswamy Deekshidhar, Syama Sastrigal and Thiyaraja Swamigal. All of the three born in the divine place named Thiruvarur. Deekshidhar the youngest of the three lived in thiruvarur for his lifetime. All of his songs are in sanskrit and contains "Guruguha" as krithi karta mutrai (a mark of identification set by the composer). Many of his songs also have raaga mutrai (mark of identification for the raaga of song)also.

He had composed around 500 songs. He handled variety of raagas and talas for his krithis. His sanskrit knowledge will impress everyone. The depth of meaning found in the song will make us to fall to his feet. He had made songs on variety of deities right from lord shiva, loka janani matha shakthi, lord mahavishnu and his various avatars, lakshmi, ganapathy, murugan etc etc to lord ayyappan and vaatatmaja hanuman, whereas the other two focussed more on a single deity.

Though all his songs are beautiful and mind blowing, I like the following songs very much.

1. Amba neelayatakshi -- neelambari
2. Akilandeshwari rakshamam -- jujavanthi
3. Dharmasamvardhini -- madhyamavathi
4. Sri Varalakshmi -- sri
5. Hiranmayeem lakshmeem -- lalitha
6. Kanjathalayatakshi -- kamala manohari.

The list will be growing so I restrict myself with this six. I will be cursed by the musicians if I forgot to mention about the raaga Hamsadwani which is said to be discovered by the Deekshidhar's father Ramaswamy deekshidhar. Our music deity has composed one of the greatest song of hamsadwani on Lord Ganapathy "Vaathapi Ganapathim", which in my opinion an epitome for the raaga Hamsadwani.

Majority of his songs will have a madhyama kaala sahityam which will be in turita kaalam (sung with a faster phase compared to rest of the song), which will make the listener to amaze. He has composed 9 great songs on the goddess kamalambika of thiruvarur, the collection is called as Kamalamba navavarnam. All the songs will be spell bounding.

His sanskrit knowledge will be greatly exhibited in all of his compositions. I personally like the charana sahityam of kanjadalayadakshi and the pallavi of sri varalakshmi the most. He is the legend and no one can describe his knowledge and talent fully in words. This is a small attempt by an ordinary music lover.

To understand about the deekshidhar more one have to show his bakthi to the raaga, the god and the guruguha. Let us praise the god through various compositions of deekshidhar and lead a better meaningful life...

May Deekshidhar bless all of us and make us to prosper in life.

Love Makes Life Beautiful

Oh.. who don't want to love and be loved.. everyone does. it's such an attractive feel which is a god given gift for earthly creatures. right from the smallest grass to the so called six sensed human everybody loves and get love from others. when we are born, from mom, later from dad, at teens longing for a girls', from friends and lot lot of people. but have you ever tried to think why the love we get from one person is so different from some other person.??

many of us would not have. tat is the problem of we people. the parents love will be with us though we are not reciprocating any. but a friends love often needs a reciprocation, at least to a certain extent. but if it is to opposite sex (especially for guys who are trying to win a girls cute heart) it needs extreme efforts. you can at the maximum get some 20% of what you show. this is not the fault of those people. it is a fact which is quite natural.

winning a girls heart and make her to have a feel for you is a difficult task but if you achieved it you are one of the luckiest person. if a girl started believing you and accepts your love, she will give you the love which you cannot even dream. such a pure love is very hard to obtain.

guys here are a few tips to make you a better lover.

1. please be frank as much as you can.
2. no need to impress her with your look, but with your care and affection.
3. she expects nothing except a pure love affection and protection.
4. respect her wishes likes and dislikes

but make sure that the girl is not a sort of lots who will abuse your love and care. if you are fool enough to do that, many shrewd selfish girls are out to make you absurd.

girls think twice before you do things. it is a well known fact, in fact a proved one that the girl's mind is unstable and dynamic, but do not be dynamic in selecting your man. after all we guys expect only one thing from you which is nothing but a cute heart which is full of love.

i am blaming neither sex. she is so because she is a SHE and he is so because he is a HE. but everyone has common humanitarian characters which needs to respected and valued.

there are fellows who are just looking girls as a toy for sex. but i wont consider them as a human even. similarly there are girls who abuses a guy in the name of love. they are still worse. fellow men and women, try to show your human characteristics out, then you can observe how beautiful our blue planet is!!!

no one can be best man if he/she does not give respect to his/her fellow men. for the prats who involve themselves in brainwashing and canvassing what i can say is keep your dirty nose well away from the others' business. give respect to everyone's opinion. do not behave like a know it all.

love your parents, better-half, siblings, relations, friends, each and every fellow human beings and all living and non living creatures. life is short but make people to remember you by sharing your love.

LOVE MAKES LIFE BEAUTIFUL

To lead a better marital life

Though I am single, with my observations i am trying my best to say about some simple principles with which we can enjoy the happiest marital life.

First for guys,

The mistake often we people do is not showing our love explicitly to our spouse. Unfortunately that is the biggest expectation of the opposite sex. Many of the girls are complaining that their husband is not as same as he was before marriage. Guys think, we are spending more time waiting for girl friend when she was lover but failing to wait for even a 5-minute after marriage. Many of our people will go verbose on accusing girls for taking more time for dressing, make up and in shopping. But we people enjoy actually being out with beautifully dressed spouse. So what harm in waiting for she to get her things finished before going out? How much time we are spending in chat and surfing useless things? Think for a while.

Where do our romantic messages and talks vanishes after marriage? We people are comfortable with friends (of either sex) always, but not the same with our beloved spouse. Be romantic, flirt and joyful to the lady love forever. Just do that for a day and see the response it will be extremely pleasing.

Do not try lying with the wife. If you got caught red handed later the love meter readings will suddenly fall to negative values. Speak openly with the better half for at least some 15 minutes about the days' incidents before bed.

Try to fulfill her fantasies to the best possible extent. Do not forget to kiss before leaving for work. Take her out for a date at least once a week. If you follow these simple things you will be a deity for your lady.

My dear lady friends,

i. avoid calling, messaging or mailing your hubby unless it is absolutely necessary. Things such as "dear honey had lunch?" will be sweet for a few days but later it will be annoying when he found that message at peak of work

ii. Believe the fact that your man loves you the most than anything on this earth. But we poor guys are not talented enough to explicitly express it in innovative way everyday.

iii. Kindly treat generously your spouse's forgetfulness. If he forget something that is absolutely unintentional and it does not mean he has forgotten you and your love.

iv. Do not try to expose your possessiveness. Possessiveness is sweet but not always. Show it in times when it will be sounding beautiful.

v. Last but not the least do not compare yourself with your man's best friend (of either sex). You are so much important than the best friends for your hubby. So do not degrade your level by those silly comparisons.

With these things well understood you can make your man to do whatever you like. Also You can well root the thought that 'i am lucky to have her' in the brain for your guy.

For the betterment of both mr and mrs,

Understand the fact that 'giving away your own opinion for your spouse nature is a temporary solution. The permanent solution will be accepting his/her character'. Always give pleasant surprises to your better half (Make sure that it will be happy ones else surprises will become shocks). Share gifts on important days like anniversary, day of first meet, day of proposal etc. Greet at midnight 12 on the day of birthday with a sweet kiss and nice gift. Solve problems by having a nice conversation. Value the friends of your spouse. Better make them as your brother or sister.

You cannot lead a single life for long time. You may think you are happy as a single but reality differs. Let us make the earth a heaven and a very happy place to live in by leading a charming double family.

Long live anthropes.